Thursday, June 21, 2007

What do you say?

When your 19 yr old step-daughter comes to you and says she's going to become a mommy?

My step-daughter has been nothing but respectful and sweet for the short time I've know her. My husband and I have been with each other for close to 10 years. His active involvement with her has only really been for the past 7 of those 10 years. He has always been a good father, providing child support without visitation was really difficult and stressful. When she turned 12 she requested that her father come around and gradually her mother allowed such visits to happen.

When she was sixteen, she stayed the summer and I got my chance to play a role in her life. It was very nice to have the extra set of helping hands while in my third trimester. She was a great kid and still is, but very naive in certain life lessons. I almost feel like I've got the short end of the stick. We've tried counseling, therapy, long drives in the car with deep discussions of where her future lies. She's past the point of teaching her any life lessons....she will have to learn from experience. What a hard life she's set her self up for. I would say I have sympathy for her, but I don't. She new what she was doing and she'll have to live with the repercussions of her actions.

Having been there and done it...It just pains me to see the road she has chosen when she had the world at her fingertips. I keep telling my self, it's only a baby. Babies are the beginnings of new life and new hope. Sigh. What now? Do I fall in the category of a knitting grandma at the ripe old age of 32?

On the knitting front...I have no photos. My charger for my batteries is missing and the batteries I do have don't have the juice to even take one'll just have to wait till tomorrow. I went out and bought another charger and I'm patiently waiting for my AA's to get their butt in gear.

The Thermal is right on track, although I've been knitting and measuring 19 inches for the past 24 hours. What's up with that?

On the spinning front, I've spun up all the Shetland wool. One skein is drying in the bathroom and another needs to get off the bobbin. I plied the last of my bobbins last night and now I get to decided on color dyes. Any suggestions? I'm thinking blue or Purple...I'm really into those colors right now...oh, wait. How about a black cherry Kool-Aid dye?


allie said...

I'm sorry to hear about your step-daughter. As an 18-year-old, I cannot imagine having a child at this point in my life. I will be thinking of you and wishing you, your husband, your step-daughter, and her mother the best of everything. Hopefully everything will work out alright. Plus, you'll get to knit some cute baby clothes.

Angelika said...

My step-daughter at 19 also became pregnant. We also had alot of disagreements with her. She just viewed things differently, but she was quite mature. She and the father decided not to wed. And to my delight she asked me to be her lamaze partner. Tyler (girl) is now 13 yrs old and we have a very special bond despite their living now in San Diego. Tyler really changed my step-daughters life and we feel actually made her much happier. So who knows, maybe this is a blessing in disguise. At least she is not of high school age.


Knitterary said...

Big hugs to the whole Red clan. Look, I know it's a shock, but with such a strong and supportive family, it will be okay. Maybe not easy, but you'll all get through it.

Rebecca said...

What do I say?

b'sha'ah tovah

It's a traditional Jewish blessing for pregnant woman, literally meaning "May the baby come at the right time."



No, this doesn't make you a grandmother, but oh boy are we gonna tease Ed about being a grampa. :D

Mrs. H said...

Maybe look at it as everything happens for a reason. I know that's not the easiest thing to do, and that things are stressful right now. But you'll all be ok. This child was meant to be for whatever reason. And when the baby is born and you see him/her for the first time... well... remember what it was like when you saw Mac for the first time? Your step-daughter will be experiencing that, and in some ways, you and your husband will too. My prayers are with all of you.